Adult Children

Too much of others and Not enough You!

I could call this section Caretaking.

Some singles are consumed with the needs of others. Let’s split this up into 2 very different scenarios.

1) Temporary or Long-term special needs situations

Some special needs situations require much of your time and energy…. A circumstance where you are a caretaker for special needs child, an ailing parent, full-time caretaking job for a family member or hospice responsibilities. In these situations you might decide to put finding a partner on the back burner. Or you may be asking yourself if you really want to wait or if you need to re-organize your life in some way to make more room for your needs. If you are a care taker, getting additional support, whether or not you seek a partner, might be the thing to do.

2) Children who are failing to launch

Are you worried about bringing your date home because you have an adult son or daughter who lives at home? Does this limit what you feel comfortable saying or doing? Are you worried that a new partner will want you to set better boundaries with your kids? Are you frequently (or always) worried about your kid(s)?

If your kids don’t have any developmental issues and they are living at home longer than you feel is healthy, it’s best to upgrade your actions. Only you can decide what that means. Input from an outside perspective could really help you.